Fifteen years ago, I wrote a poem to commemorate the wedding of two friends. I based it on the traditional Navajo wedding vase, and tried to use internal rhyme to give it movement, and to say All The Things I think about marriage, have witnessed quite a few over the years. The irony: the poem first appeared in To Love One Another, a book of poetry about marriage by an assortment of poets, of whom I am probably the only one who had never been married. I also read this a few years back at the wedding of another set of friends, which was a great compliment and honor. I feel like it has held up well over the years.
Now You Have Become One
Pitcher Pouring out Water from Two Sides
…
reflection on a Navajo wedding vase
for Andrew and Cathy
…
A difficult trick, requiring cooperation
and grace, like a three-legged race
where you hop and kick your way
to the finish line. Such a pitcher is full
of contradiction. No more can you
say of the water, “This is mine,” or
of the pitcher, “I.” Now you learn
to say “we,” take turns pouring out
on the dry ground around you—
…
for desert will always surround you,
awaiting clean water to awaken the green,
the flowering red and blue, from the baking,
cracked ground. Now you will practice
togetherness mopping floors and grouting
tile, opening doors in yourselves and leaving
them open, like the spouting lip of this
pitcher on each side. Now, man and bride,
woman and groom, you will cleave
like clay braided together, reaching around
to embrace. But first, you will need
…
to leave room in your day to pour out
over one another’s faces, to quench each
other’s thirst. And in your trade-off
for closeness, you must give up those
crabby mornings, easy freedoms, blithe
old habits. Sometimes you must give away
what you most treasure. You must give
water in due season. You must give to
each other, the world, in equal measures.
…
“Now You Have Become One Pitcher Pouring out Water from Two Sides” first appeared in To Love One Another, published by Grayson Books (Ginny Lowe Connors, ed.).
Beautiful. :0
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